Personal Development

Do You Know What You Want In Life?

I love Pinterest, with its pretty visuals and the amount of personal development pins it offers. But while I see plenty of them aimed at helping people reach their goals, I noticed a staggering lack of helpful tips for those who don’t know who or where they want to be in a year, let alone 5 or 10. Aka, how to find your life purpose.

I have gone through many phases in life trying to figure out what I want my life to be. At first, all I wanted to accomplish was to become a psychotherapist. I was willing to dedicate my whole life to it. And while, sure, I got my bachelor’s and some certificates, and I still enjoy the occasional session, I no longer see it as my calling.

I’ve started many things – a therapy website, Swedish lessons, Danish lessons – without finishing them. I get very caught up and passionate about something, but my passion soon wanes.

But while I still take up and leave hobbies, I have known what I want my life to be for a while now. Whether it’s maturity, the law of attraction stuff I like, or all those years of studying psychology, I figured it out.

And now you can, too. All you need to do is ask yourself a couple of questions.

Questions to Help You Find Your Life Purpose

Where do You Want to Be in 10 Years?

Notice that I didn’t ask the classic “where do you see yourself”. Because if I ask you that, you’ll focus on your current circumstances. You’ll see yourself still working the same job, in the same town, living in the same tiny apartment.

Instead, I want to ask you – where do you WANT to be in 10 years? That forces you to really think about what’s important to you.

For example, I know I want to be flexible. Ideally, I’ll be running my own business, not depending on anyone else to decide my working hours or my salary. I will live in a two-story house and have at least two kids. I will travel a lot.

And you? Focusing on your wants rather than your current situation helps unfold these goals.

If you’re struggling with this question, turn it upside down.

What are the things you don’t want to be without in 10 years?

Whose lack would hit you the hardest? Is it a high-paying job? A house by the beach? A husband?

Now from there, all you need to do is separate it into a couple of segments. Namely, what do you want your:

  • Family life
  • Work
  • Free time
  • Finances
  • Routine

To look like? And then you create one ideal day you see yourself having in 10 years. You write it down, and keep it as specific as possible. For me it’s:

I wake up around 6am in a huge bedroom on the second floor. The sun is shining, my husband gets up, goes down to the kitchen and makes us coffee. We drink it in peace – after he leaves for work, I read a book for a while. Then I grab my laptop and start working on this website, my own business. My kids wake up around 9am, I make them breakfast, we talk and have fun. After I drop them off at school, I continue my work. I listen to some podcasts at the same time, and during breaks I plan our 15-day vacation somewhere beautiful. When they come home from school/work, I’ve prepared a delicious dinner. Then we all watch a movie together.

I don’t want to bore you too much, but to find your life purpose, be as specific as possible. What are you having for breakfast? What kind of coffee machine are you using? Which car are you driving your kids in? The greater the detail, the better you’ll understand what you really want in life.

Once you do, it’s time for the big question.

What Would Allow me to Have This Life? What Steps Do I Need to Take to Make It a Reality?

Ask yourself what kind of job would allow you to have the satisfaction, finances, routine, and everything else you see yourself having in 10 years. What kind of a partner would support that life?

And finally, how do you get there? What steps do you need to take to land that perfect job? To find that perfect partner?

When you get to that step, check out Dailygreatness. They have amazing planners to help you track your tasks and goals!

If you answer these questions truthfully and in detail, you’ll know exactly which path to take. It will probably require some sacrifice. I don’t like working after my regular work, nor on weekends. But this website brings me joy, and if I’m to have my perfect life, I need to put in the hours and the effort.

So you can either work on getting there as soon as now, or find yourself unhappy in 10 years, just because you didn’t want to leave your zone of comfort. If you’re ready to start, I recommend you get familiar with affirmations, manifesting, vision boards, and all those things that make taking that next step more clear. Make Pinterest boards depicting your perfect life. Do all you need to do to not lose it out of sight!

Certain programs like Art of Deliberate Creation, and Manifestation Miracle are designed to help you get there.

There is one final question I have for you. Are you ready to find your life purpose and start creating the life of your dreams?

Jelena
Jelena

A 27-year-old married mom-to-be, trying to have it all. I have a full-time job I enjoy, a home I’m in love with, and plenty of hobbies I try my best to have the time for. A psychologist by vocation, with the goal of helping young women live their best lives.

Jelena
Jelena

A 27-year-old married mom-to-be, trying to have it all. I have a full-time job I enjoy, a home I’m in love with, and plenty of hobbies I try my best to have the time for. A psychologist by vocation, with the goal of helping young women live their best lives.

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